Have you been dumped and feel like everything is falling apart around you? Don’t panic: it’s nothing dramatic, but be careful not to let yourself go. You have to pull yourself together to move forward: don’t fall into the illusion that you’ll get your ex back. It’s time to face the fact that it’s over and here’s how to get back on track.
The first step to getting over your ex is to convince yourself that she wasn’t the perfect woman. Remember all the bad times, all the tensions she caused, all her faults: she was far from being the perfect girl!
If she is not clear about her desire to leave you: stop the massacre of your heart and feelings yourself, demand that she specifically states her wish to leave you. It is then time to rebuild yourself. Before flirting and seducing again, you must take the time to digest this break-up: go out with friends and rebuild your self-confidence.
It’s all about willpower when it comes to moving forward. Boost yourself, both professionally and physically. Don’t let yourself get depressed: take up sport to stay in shape. If you ever run into your ex, you must show him or her that your break-up has not affected you: you must look good and not hesitate to show your dynamism. Your separation should benefit your professional career and push you to be ambitious.
Dating has become much more difficult these days. People are becoming more picky, and many singles are choosing to live alone rather than in bad company!
Do you want to be one of those people who, every night in cinemas, romantic dinners, bars/cafes, restaurants… try to identify if they are meant to live together?
Then you should follow these tips to avoid disastrous first dates.
Be prepared!
Women like men who have a plan. She will understand that you are really interested in her if you take the time to make a specific plan on the day of the date.
Be creative…
Don’t get your hopes up
Don’t expect your date to act this way or that way on the first date. This will only lead to disappointment.
Make an effort to appreciate this girl or boy for who he or she really is, regardless of whether this will lead to a second date or not.
There is always something to learn with everyone you meet. If it doesn’t work out, don’t get frustrated. Just enjoy learning from the experience and persevere.
When you decide to be with someone, you should not try to change anything about their personality.
Be the best you can be!
Your date will appreciate that you have taken the time and made the effort for him/her. Bad breath, too much smell… And your first date ends up in a dead end.
It’s not what you say that counts… but how you say it!
2/3 of your communication is non-verbal, and almost a third is conveyed by the tone of your voice!
Be yourself and be confident, there is no need to play a role.
Have a positive attitude towards your date, be open and communicative. Relax and keep smiling…
Show interest
Playing a little game of “innocent flirting” is particularly sexy.
Even if it’s just a look, a touch on the shoulder… But always make sure you get positive vibes in return before you go too far.
Always tell the truth
Always be honest about yourself, about your experiences… Especially on the first date, you don’t need to pretend to be someone else.
You will always lose out if you maintain an unassumed false identity.
Many people wonder if love at first sight is a myth… One thing is certain, you will only make a first impression. 80% of women will tell you that 3 dates are enough to determine if a relationship can work or not…
Now you can make a success of your first dates.
Mutual respect is the basis of trust in a love relationship. How can we maintain this trust and respect in a sustainable way?
To maintain trust in a couple, you need to know what it is. Trust is fundamental to the survival of a couple. The golden rule for trust is first and foremost to trust yourself. Similarly, trust must be shared: your partner must trust you. Here’s how not to disappoint her.
Being late for a date with your loved one is the enemy of your relationship: keep this in mind. Your relationship of trust starts with punctuality. You should also make an effort to remember the key dates of events relating to her and your relationship: you can’t forget an anniversary, so if you’re ever the forgetful type, set yourself reminders!
Don’t be secretive with your partner: a secret discovered is unforgivable. Never lie or hide anything from your partner: the truth always comes out, you know that. Also, in order not to damage the relationship of trust you have established, do not talk to him about your exes.
As for your best friend, make things clear so that your girlfriend does not feel less loved or left out of your relationship. You must avoid at all costs developing a feeling of jealousy towards your best friend: show her that she is much more important to you and that there is no ambiguity between you two.
According to an American study, out of 100 people questioned, more than three quarters cite charm as an indispensable asset for seduction. Having charm is therefore a prerequisite for all aspiring seducers to win over their female target.
The first thing you need to know is that while for some men charm is innate, for others it can be acquired with practice and specific techniques. Trying to become charming, repeating acts that make you charming: charm becomes a characteristic element of your personality and makes you attractive and irresistible to a woman.
Charm is characterised in particular by a sincere and natural smile, by an expressive and deep look. Your target must look her straight in the eyes. Do not hesitate to flatter them: compliments are part of charm. Be careful not to expect anything in return for your complimentary attitude towards her.
The charmer is anything but heavy-handed and insistent: it is up to you to find the right balance to be pleasant and make her feel good in your presence, as if all her worries had been put to rest.
Having charm, or working on yourself to have it, means learning to be confident without being an overconfident guy. As you can see, charm can be acquired and requires a lot of effort, but it is worth it! It’s up to you to put these tips into practice on your entourage first before taking action with your target woman.
Mirror, mirror, mirror… Have you ever taken the time to seriously question your self-image? Do you truly love yourself? We all have moments in life when we lose confidence and get carried away by counterproductive behaviour that leads us away from well-being. How can we claim to be happy if we don’t already love ourselves? Find out how to improve your self-esteem.
Restoring self-esteem is possible because it is a quality of our spirit that is already within us and that we can always improve. Self-esteem is not an ideal state of perfection, but a way of feeling good about ourselves.
Restoring self-esteem leads to improved self-confidence, strengthens us and makes us feel good. If we look at ourselves carefully, we may be surprised at how often we feel gripped by the fear of making mistakes, of being ridiculous and inadequate.
Every time we think we are not good enough, we move away from self-esteem. And even when we want to be approved by others before we act. Too often we insist on wanting to be a certain way to please others and are more willing to believe criticism than appreciation.
Increasing self-esteem means getting rid of this conditioning and having more confidence in our abilities. In the same way, it means getting rid of confrontation, regret and guilt. To increase self-esteem, we need to get in touch with ourselves and gain confidence in our inner space. Only in this way can we feel good.
“Feeling good” is different from “feeling good”, because it involves the perception of one’s own emotions and the deepest part of oneself. There is a secret space within us, where all discomfort, conditioning and judgement can disappear. In order to increase self-esteem and improve self-confidence, we need to become familiar with this inner space.
There are three ways to increase self-esteem.
1. Stop questioning your choices
We tend to doubt our choices… “Was I right to make that phone call?”, “Was that dress the right one?”, “Would it have been better not to go to that party?”
In this way, we move away from self-esteem.
2. Stop being infinitely cautious before doing anything
Some of us frequently ask for the consent of others. “I’d better ask my wife first”, “Can I do that?”, “What do you think if I go to that place?
In this way you are dependent on others. Dependence takes away your self-esteem.
3. Stop constantly asking for confirmation of your behaviour
Many people are always asking others for a judgement. “How did I behave?”, “In your opinion, was I wrong to do so?
Anyone who is conditioned by the judgment of others has no self-esteem. Find confirmation within yourself.
Building self-esteem can be an interesting journey that greatly improves your life. It is possible that the experiences we have had or are having are shaking your confidence.
This is because it is important to dig deep within yourself to discover your intrinsic value. Being aware of how to support yourself can help you take the first steps towards your renewed well-being.
Keeping your self-esteem high means believing in yourself and your worth. To maintain high self-esteem and live life well, you must necessarily set goals in life. It is a balanced mental state that allows you to make plans for life and set goals. Keeping a good self-esteem, having self-confidence also means striving to get out of the mechanisms of deprivation that have been internalised throughout life. It can therefore learn to improve our self-esteem and feel more confident. Discover 6 important steps to maintaining good self-esteem.
A goal is a mental form of projection of thought into the future in which you place a goal-oriented image of yourself. If you sometimes fail to achieve your goals because you don’t know how to do it and it leaves you feeling frustrated and unsuccessful, here are some steps that can help you.
1. Turn a difficult decision into a simple habit
Make a commitment to yourself and decide clearly.
2. Formulate an action plan
Make a list of reasons why you want to achieve this goal. Take it with you at all times and review it frequently throughout the day.
3. Take it one step at a time
Do not make the goal too difficult or unreal. Break the goal down into steps and start with the simplest and most reasonable one. Make a list of things to do every day and don’t put it off, and define the daily steps well.
4. Set priorities
Think of a priority scale so that you don’t lose motivation and abandon all your good intentions. Form a goal sheet, determine how long it will take to achieve your goal and set dates for the different steps, then draw up an action plan.
5. Reward yourself for each step you reach
Once you have broken down your goal and set deadlines for each step, reward yourself when you achieve it. Many people mistakenly consider the achievement of individual steps as unimportant, always keeping in mind only the final goal. This attitude can be demotivating. In fact, you could not reach your final goal without the intermediate steps. So rejoice and reward yourself for each step you take. If you fail at some of the steps, don’t give up, because it is normal for this to happen. If you want to learn something, repeat it, it is learned by repetition, in fact, everything you learn, is repeated many times. Repeating an action a certain number of times becomes automatic, therefore unconscious.
6. Don’t brood
Rapture is never effective, when it happens, accept that discouraging thoughts may sometimes occur, but don’t let it get you down.
The question is simple: what is its value? If you are having difficulty or have not been able to answer, don’t worry, it happens very often. We usually find it much easier to assign values to others than to ourselves. Why does this happen? Self-esteem is built through positive and negative relationships from birth. The more loved and secure a child feels, the more likely he or she is to become a confident adult. On the other hand, a child who grows up hearing that he or she is not wanted, not capable, not smart, not beautiful, is likely to be an insecure adult, which will lead to difficulties in choosing a profession (I’m no good at anything), making friends (I’m not cool enough) and in dating (I’m not beautiful).
It is important to say that self-esteem is the internal value we have attributed to ourselves and has nothing to do with the external (physical), after all if this were the case only actresses and models would have good self-esteem. In fact, a woman may feel better if she is tidy, but that doesn’t mean she has to have self-esteem, because an insecure woman may be extremely vain (afraid of being judged by others) while another may leave the house without combing her hair and be super confident (I’m beautiful anyway).
The signs of low self-esteem are numerous and we can mention among them: need for approval (recognition and pleasure); dependence (financial and emotional); insecurity (jealousy); not being allowed to make mistakes, perfectionism; feeling of not being able to achieve anything; not believing in oneself or in anyone; constant doubts, doubting one’s own worth; depression; anxiety; envy; fear; anger; aggressiveness; complacency; shame; difficulty in developing professionally and feeling inferior.
How to improve your self-esteem? There is no magic formula, the only solution is self-knowledge, we can compare our life to a messy wardrobe, where it is very difficult to find clean clothes (qualities), so we have to see which clothes need to be washed, which ones don’t fit anymore (get rid of the wounds that only weigh down and take up space in our life) and which ones are there brand new without ever being used (potential).
Although laborious, self-knowledge allows us to see things more clearly, to find our qualities, which are often suppressed and cancelled out by ourselves and by others. The first step is to want to change, to have difficulties, not to be ashamed to seek a professional. Be happy!
When a relationship ends, there is usually only an interruption of life. People prefer to hide and wait for the pain to finally subside. But heartache can be actively fought. The man is gone and you feel as if you have been chewed up and spat out. The heartache hits you with its ugly fist again and again where it really hurts, deep in your stomach. As hard as it is, you have to do it now. Because without a bleeding heart, you’ll never recover. The good news is that you are not alone. And there are ways to shorten the grieving period. Here’s what can really help ease the grief.
First of all, you can really cry. Because the heartache has to get out of your system and that works best with thick tears running down your cheek and cleavage. The one who forbids himself to cry and pulls himself together out of false pride prolongs the sick feeling in the stomach at some point, it will come out anyway.
Enjoy the freedom and finally do what you denied yourself for his sake. He didn’t like your pink sequined jumpers… It will be twice as much fun to walk around the neighborhood with them. Grab your friends and go cycling, surfing, barbecuing or just go to your favourite pub around the corner. Be what you couldn’t be with him – yourself.
Whether it’s in another city or at home, what you need now are your friends. Here you can let loose, grumble, cry, laugh and be sure your crew is on your side. Also, your ladies will make you forget all about it, because each of them has at least one problem that needs to be discussed urgently.
If your dearest girlfriends are around you, you should get dressed up and go to the clubs in town. The timing is perfect, because if you are still feeling insecure, they will give you a sense of security. But if you enjoy the singles nightlife the first time around, they can stay with you until the sun comes up again.
The first thing you do after the breakup, delete his contacts. Whether it’s WhatsApp, Facebook or Instagram, you’ll cut off all the links you have with your ex. The sooner he disappears from your social media world, the sooner he will leave your thoughts. One last thing, nothing is more embarrassing than leaving lard or hate messages for your ex during a sleepless, drunken night.
Grab a travel companion of your choice and go on a trip anywhere. The main thing is that you get new data and a comforting bandage on your wounded heart. Look for a nice bed
It sounds trivial, but a new hairstyle can be like a new life. Every time you cut your hair, you feel a little freer. But if you don’t want to lose too much hair, try a new hair colour. If you change on the outside, you also set your inner life in motion. But be careful, wait until the crying phase is over and your thoughts slowly become clearer. You will regret the hasty cut in the end. Let some time pass and forget about the grief of the trusted hairdresser.